Have you lost hope we can bridge our country’s divide that is pitting political ideologies with one another? I have not, but I believe we need to do something different to create unity; we must listen and understand what those who differ have to say.

The seven words used for this title are part of a significant first step towards that understanding. Asking someone to explain their opinion is a sign of respect, it says you want to know more. But listening is a choice, if while the other person is talking you look for the opportunity to interrupt with your counter arguments, that is not listening.

Ground rules for open mindedness

Listening is founded on the mutual respect and acceptance of one another’s right to believe what we must. Here are a few rules to remember;

1) Just because someone disagrees with you does not make them evil, unethical or stupid.

2) Everyone is shaped by their experiences, environment and by the people who come into their lives. Like you, people who differ have good reason for what they believe. Therefore, it is important to ask for an explanation and get the person to reveal what is behind their opinion. You may find that their perspective makes a heck of a lot more sense than you imagined.

3) Not one person was born to be a fountain of all knowledge. The same Higher Consciousness that lives in and informs you also lives in them. Our role is to bridge the areas where we are united rather than focus on our differences. There are those who spurn compromise, calling it an unsatisfying process where no one wins, yet, what we sorely need today is the ability to listen to both sides and devise an agreeable compromise.

4) Truth is a collective agreement. Judging there is an ultimate truth is an illusion. This is as useless as trying to define the Higher Consciousness present in the universe. Thinking we can define truth puts parameters on something that is always evolving. The truth we follow today is more comprehensive than the truth our parents and our ancestors before them knew because we have discovered new evidence. The truth we see tomorrow will result from the society’s collective agreement. It is up to us to open our hearts and minds and listen to what those who differ have to say so we may incorporate the ideas that have value for all of us.

5) Choose the values of love and reject those of fear. When speaking of compromise to form a collective truth, I am not advocating we incorporate into our agreement sexism, racism, homophobia or any beliefs that discriminate, harm and devalue human beings and living things. Differentiating between love and fear is not that hard. Love includes generosity, kindness, courage, understanding and accepting differences, inclusion, open-mindedness, justice, fairness, empathy, truthfulness and patience. Fear incorporates hatred, violence, jealousy, revenge, entitlement, deceit, envy, paranoia and arrogance. You get the picture?

However, don’t avoid people who think with the qualities of fear, they need to be heard. We need to understand the basis of their fear so we can shine a light on a better path.

6) Regardless of your political leanings, don’t support the fear mongers and those who try to divide us. They do this out of selfishness because they see benefit in keeping us divided. They use division to raise money and further their individual causes. Support instead those who acknowledge we have something to learn from each other and that united we can better succeed.


We will not bridge our divide if we keep trying to win the argument. Our effort should go towards moving the needle from division to mutual respect for one another. It is only when our actions show we value everyone that this healing can begin. You don’t have to save the whole world, start by trying to understand the minds of those around you.

As always, wishing you a life filled with joy, love and serenity.

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