It is a sign of the times that divorce continues to be at the highest rates ever. Some view this to be a bad thing, as the end of a long-term relationship can leave a person feeling alone and discouraged. But just like every life challenge offers new and better possibilities, the end of one love can lead to the beginning of an even fuller and more fulfilling relationship.
It all depends on how you view love
People over fifty have discovered the days are over when lust at first site was the way to determine a suitable partner. They know lust alone does not last. Once the romance bliss bubble pops, you are left with the essence of the person lying next to you. You might have missed this while you were busy trying to get him/her in bed, but you will find it very disappointing when you discover you don’t like that person very much once the lust is gone.
Some people over fifty may not have tried another method to look for a new partner because they have been in a long-term relationship since their twenties. But once they have lived in the dating world for a while, they soon find out lust at first sight just doesn’t cut it anymore.
I am not saying that sexual attraction is not important as you get older, it definitely is important still, but our definition of love has hopefully changed. This is not because people of a further age become too stubborn and set in their ways; it is that they become less tolerant of the things they are certain another cannot change. Good sex alone is not enough to overcome the character traits of another that might not fit with you.
There is another factor, and this has to do with the fact that, as we get older, we learn to love ourselves better. We know a relationship will not work unless two partners can enthusiastically and respectfully support each other in their own evolution without restriction. This is a big change from where many of us started when we found our first romantic partners.
The make-up of romantic partnerships has changed
It is not just our definition of love that has transformed, the formula for romantic unions has also changed. A large percentage of people over fifty don’t see the need to get married as part of a committed relationship. For example, many couples don’t see a need to live together in the same house, city, state or even country to be committed to one another. The fact is there is no formula, two people can figure out the best way for them, and that is fine.
Conclusion
Bottom line is this, if you are still looking for that desirable woman/man to fulfill your sexual fantasies and fill your life with romance for perpetuity, then I don’t think you will find true love after fifty. If you are still relying on sex appeal as your dominant feature, then you are probably not going to attract the partner that can contribute to a fulfilling relationship.
However, if you can be open-minded, optimistic, flexible and accept new dimensions of love that go beyond physical attraction, then you may find a love that goes beyond sex and romance. It can be one that helps you form a union with another’s body, mind and soul.
There will be some trials, and you will have to be patient, but you will find the greatest love of your life with a partner who fully cherishes you and you them.
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